#70: The Hidden Struggles of Neurodivergent Kids—and What Teachers Can Do About It with Dr. Emily King
When You Know They’re Smart, But Something’s Getting in the Way…
You know that student. The one who freezes during independent work. Or bursts into tears during transitions. Or constantly asks, “Wait, what am I supposed to be doing?” You know they’re capable. You see the spark. But somehow, learning still feels like an uphill battle.
That’s exactly what we’re digging into in this week’s conversation with Dr. Emily King. She’s a psychologist, an expert on neurodivergent children, and a fierce advocate for teachers who want to better understand their students’ brains.
What Does Neurodivergent Really Mean?
Neurodivergent is more than just a buzzword. It describes students with brains that process, regulate, and respond to information differently. This includes learners with autism, ADHD, giftedness, learning disabilities, or a combination of any of the above.
Dr. King reminds us that many of these kids aren’t struggling because they lack intelligence. It’s their executive functioning and emotional regulation systems that are out of sync with traditional classroom expectations.
And that mismatch? It leads to frustration for everyone involved.
How Teachers Can Make a Difference
You don’t need a therapy degree to support neurodivergent learners. But you do need to understand what you’re seeing. Dr. King outlines simple mindset shifts and practical strategies that create a more inclusive, connected learning space.
Here are some key takeaways:
- Look at Mood First: Is this behavior driven by anxiety or sadness? Mood swings often show up as perfectionism, withdrawal, or defiance.
- Widen the Window of Tolerance: A student’s ability to learn depends on how regulated they feel. Safe relationships, flexible routines, and interest-based learning help.
- Support Executive Functioning: Visuals, checklists, and environmental tweaks make a huge difference. Don’t assume noncompliance—often, it’s forgetfulness or overwhelm.
- Build Shame-Free Systems: Tone of voice matters. So do flexible seating options, noise-canceling headphones, and universal supports that benefit all kids.
- Partner with Parents: Assume parents know their child best. Ask about what works at home. Stay curious and collaborative, not defensive.
In This Episode, You’ll Discover:
- The difference between “can’t” and “won’t” when it comes to behavior.
- How emotional regulation impacts learning (and what teachers can do).
- Why visuals are a game-changer for executive functioning.
- How to build more inclusive routines that help all students.
- The simple phrase that transforms parent-teacher relationships.
Bringing It All Together
You don’t have to be an expert in mental health to make a powerful difference. You just have to stay open, observant, and willing to tweak the way things have always been done. When neurodivergent kids feel understood, safe, and confident, everything changes.
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